There’s a quote I heard recently by Yates Crawford that hit me hard:
“The body can’t go where the mind hasn’t.”
Let that sink in.
Because when it hits the fan…
when your daughter is followed, grabbed, or targeted…
it won’t be her fight-or-flight instinct that saves her.
It’ll be whether her mind has already been there before.
Last weekend, my husband and I took our daughters to WOFT — 13-year-old twin girls. In the low light safety scenario training, there were a total of four teenage girls who ran different scenarios, individually. Endless real-life, hands-on training experiences surrounding the most common area of attack, a vehicle.
And let me tell you — it was powerful.
They trained for scenarios no one wants to imagine their daughters facing, but every parent should.
From something simple like going to the car to get your phone while your parents are in the restaurant. Carjackings. Possible abductions.
The lights stayed on for their low-light scenario, but the reality was just as sobering:
Predators don’t wait for darkness to strike.
What was extremely impressive was the instructors collective ability to meet each teenage girl where she was and patiently equip her to be stronger than her previous run.
They create customized scenarios based on each person’s proclivities to develop their protective skills.
(I’ll share what happened to me that brought me to tears in another post! I’m so thankful WOFT opened my eyes to this…)
But seriously…
It’s quite amazing to witness.
Our girls practiced anchoring themselves in the car so they couldn’t be yanked out by someone stronger.
They now know how to scan environments to determine baselines and recognize when a place isn’t safe.
They walked away learning nature’s God given defenses and how to apply them, indicators of easy targets, pre-fight indicators and so much more.
Every skill set we learn is a book on our bookshelf that we can pull from when we need it most.
And the more skills we have, the more people we can help.
But the biggest win?
They mentally walked through situations that freeze most adults.
They built confidence not because we told them they’re strong but because they proved it to themselves.
That’s what matters.
See, most people have never felt real danger. Never had to make life-saving decisions in real-time. So they assume they’ll “just react.”
But here’s the truth:
We don’t rise to the occasion. We fall to our level of real-life training.
And if our daughters have never experienced the heightened emotions that are presented in the face of danger while in a controlled, safe, realistic environment then they will be learning everything for the first time in the moment it matters most.
That’s not acceptable in our home.
We don’t train out of fear.
Because it’s not a matter of IF she’ll be approached by a predator but WHEN.
We train so they can live boldly. Move freely. Walk confidently — with eyes open and instincts sharpened.
Because the traffickers, the predators, the manipulators?
They’re out there. And they’re watching for soft targets.
Our daughters?
They’re not soft targets.
Not anymore.
We don’t wait for trauma to teach what training could have.
We won’t apologize for empowering girls to be a threat to any threat.
This is the new standard.
Let’s raise daughters who won’t be caught mentally unarmed.
Let’s raise daughters that make predators back down with the controlled power to neutralize as a last resort.
🛡 Want to train with us? Visit woft.com (use code BEBOLD for 10% off!)
Contact me and let me know when you’re going and I will meet you there. We can train together.
Because our daughters are worth more than the hope of rising to the occasion—
They’re worth preparation.
